Emotional Fitness refers to our awareness of and ability to respond to, rather than suppress, our emotions. To be able to feel, sense and trust the full spectrum of emotions rather than blocking or suppressing certain emotions. Good Emotional Fitness is not about judging our emotions as good or bad; it is about dropping deeper into the many levels of heart awareness and using tools to release the pain-body so we can benefit from releasing these negative emotions.

Our emotions and emotional programming, hence Emotional Fitness, heavily influence the thoughts we create. Hence, good Emotional Fitness helps us more efficiently create the circumstances, success and ‘flow’ we desire. Therefore, rather than forcing things, we naturally attract the circumstances and good luck in life and business that we desire.

Like a muscle, our emotions only support us if we use them. Hence, good Emotional Fitness refers to our ability to be emotionally in tune, to understand and feel the full range of emotions. Not just being optimistic, but also being able to handle and benefit from the full emotional spectrum, releasing negative emotions rather than suppressing them.

A key outcome of good Emotional Fitness is that it forms the foundation of healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem can be defined as comprising head-based and emotional self-esteem. If we look at emotional esteem, which starts in childhood, many people are taught to be good, not to cry, and therefore not to validate their feelings, so we suppress emotions, creating a void of hidden, blocked emotions that become our unconscious triggers. These are mostly hidden but can show up as anger, sadness, anxiety, depression, PTSD and many negative emotions that reduce self-esteem.

The heart is a vital organ keeping us alive. It’s the source of our blood and the flow of life, directing our nervous system and many bodily functions, as shown by extensive Neurocardiology research.

Therefore, the more we listen to and value our hearts, the more we build trust and ultimately shift into a more compassionate approach to life.

The heart is more than just a vital organ keeping us alive. It’s the source of blood flow and life flow. Good Emotional Fitness is the natural flow of desire, spontaneously becoming reality, also known as “flow.” Often our emotions move between being blocked in fear and the much more desired peak-performance state of “flow.”

Good Emotional Fitness is demonstrated by how easily a person can attract good luck and by the reality of their true desire to be in “flow.” The following chart lists some of the characteristics of fear compared to “flow.”

By comparison, an average person is more likely to be in a state of fear rather than “flow.” Fear is when our “stuff” gets in the way. Often, unconscious self-sabotage blocks us from achieving our true desires. Throughout history, this has been a high percentage of the population, which we could say is emotionally unfit. This is often shown as repeated non-desired patterns occurring in life and business, shown in relationships, financial situations, or in sports under pressure.

Our level of Emotional Fitness determines our mental state and mindset because our emotional “stuff”, which for most people is unconscious, significantly influences our feelings, which in turn shape our thoughts and mental activity.

Emotions are a universal force influencing everything that is happening in the world. Emotions drive behaviour, hence either creating or stalling action. The two ends of the emotional spectrum driving behaviour are fear and passion. Passion is the more connected, inspired motivation of “flow.”

Like a muscle, our emotional capacity is dependent on use. If we don’t use a muscle, it provides limited support. Emotions are the same. If we don’t understand and use emotions, we lack support and resilience in the critical emotional aspect of life. For example, society often teaches us to always be positive and happy. Yet, if we are only comfortable with positive emotions, we have poor Emotional Fitness and a limited range of expression. We are more likely to disown our shadow, the suppressed aspects that help determine our future reality.